The importance of setting healthy boundaries.

It’s been a crazy year to say the least! Is anyone else sick of the words unprecedented, new normal, pivot? Now, more than ever we need to be setting healthy boundaries for ourselves. I’m not talking about physical distancing, I’m talking about emotional, spiritual, intellectual and time boundaries. 

Almost every client I am seeing at the moment reports exhaustion, fatigue, overwhelm and just trying to push through to the end of this year. Some describing it as clawing their way to the arbitrary finish line we have nominated with the Christmas season.

In many cases the solution has partly to do with setting healthy boundaries. Personal boundaries are dynamic guidelines we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to but can also feel okay with opening themselves up for some closer interactions.

Healthy boundaries can help us have better control over not just our physical space, but also our body, energy levels and feelings. You can tell your boundaries are on-point when your self-esteem is positive, you feel physically and emotionally vital, and you feel empowered in your health and sense of wellbeing. 

Healthy boundaries are actually about defining the connections that are healthy for you and those that are best avoided.  They are not about excluding and isolating, but rather about conserving your emotional energy and rationing your physical and mental limits so you can be true and honest with yourself and others. 

“Generosity cannot exist without Boundaries”, Brene Brown 
Watch this clip to learn more on healthy boundaries from Brene Brown, world renowned social researcher. 

Is it time for you to review your boundaries? Check in with yourself:  Do you need to say “no” to something you keep saying yes to? Have you allowed yourself enough time to allow for the basics of self-care? Have you been putting everyone else needs before your own? Have you been doing things out of a sense of obligation rather than a sense of genuine care?
If you need help to define and implement some new boundaries, this article from Psychology today could be helpful.